Stepping into the crazy world of parenting is the ultimate immersion experience. You’ve prepared, read the books, talked to your friends. You think you have a pretty good grasp of how profoundly different your life will be. Then…the baby arrives. Only now you can truly appreciate the magnitude of what has just happened.
From the moment the beautiful bundle of joy/need/bodily fluids is in your arms, your life is immeasurably different. Although you love your little humans from every cell of your body, finding ways to balance the nurturing demands of your children while keeping the other aspects of your life together and quasi-functioning is just so incredibly… freaking… hard.
We all have periods of parenting where we’re in the weeds. The hefty demands of it all often leave many mothers (and fathers) feeling overwhelmed, lost, and unfulfilled. This life transition can very easily trigger a loss of the sense of self for many women. Hands down, the number one thing I hear from my clients is that during this crazy season of life, she just doesn’t recognize herself anymore- her identity has been sacrificed in the mothering role.
I have the pleasure and honor of working with bad ass women who are seriously not okay with this. They accept the need to redistribute some of their energy on reclaiming their joy and nurturing the self.
Every woman would agree that she is not the exact same person that she was before her children came along. Having kids changes you at your core. I am reminded of the quote by Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh:
“The moment a child is born, the mother is also born. She never existed before. The woman existed, but the mother, never. A mother is something absolutely new.”
Although you have changed, you are not lost. You are evolving. You are opening new layers of identity. Grieving the loss of your former life is normal, healthy, expected. It opens up space and opportunity for discovery and redesign. After becoming a parent, our previously accepted core values, belief systems and our prior pursuits are challenged. However; with every challenge is an opportunity. A beautiful opportunity is occurring for you right now. Right in this moment, you can decide to redefine who you are and you can decide to discover and honor the aspects and activities of life that make you feel alive. Right in this very moment, you can decide to evolve with intention and to begin a whole new chapter of your life filled with authenticity, confidence and joy.
What are you waiting for?